Some children may find it difficult to accept the changes associated with moving. Having to leave a familiar environment for the unknown is a challenge for adults, but even more so for children. Having to say goodbye to friends and neighbors along with the prospect of entering a new school and having to find new friends can be intimidating. Because the home is a special source of security and comfort for children, many families may experience concerns about leaving their familiar surroundings. Although parents understand why moving may be necessary, the reasons might not be as clear to your children. Here are some simple steps that can help to ease your children's fears and make the whole moving process as easy as counting to three.
Discuss the move with your family
Break the news about the move to everyone in the family together, and focus on the “when,” “where,” “how” and “why” of the moving process. Be sure your child understands that the move is a positive event for the whole family.
Make new friends but keep the old
Before the move, give your children an opportunity to spend time with their friends to say goodbye. Make sure your kids exchange address information with friends so they can stay in contact. This may help with the pain of saying goodbye.
Involve the kids in the moving process
Ask your children to help you plan the route your family will take to your new home. If they are old enough, get them involved in the packing process. They can even decorate and label their own boxes and pack their “special belongings.”
When the moving van operator arrives, introduce him or her to the children. For safety reasons, make sure your children understand the importance of staying clear of the driver's path when he or she is moving boxes and furniture into the moving van.
Alleviate fears
If possible, take the children to see their new home and neighborhood in advance. This will help to take the “mystery” out of the move. Introducing your children to their new neighbors will reassure them that they will make new friends after the move. If it is not possible to go to your new neighborhood, try to compile as much information about the neighborhood as you can. The Internet can offer a wealth of resources. Also, try to get a couple of photographs of your new home and surroundings (ask your real estate agent to help), and share all of the information with your children.
AFTERTHE MOVE
Pursue new activities
Help your kids to make new friends by getting them involved in extracurricular activities in their new neighborhood. Sports leagues, community kids' clubs and classes specific to your child's interests will keep them busy and make them feel more at home in their new surroundings.
Celebrate!
Once you have arrived at the new address, let your children pick their favorite restaurant, type of food or activity to “celebrate” their help in making the move successful and the beginning of a new adventure.
